Month of Love Guest Blog & Giveaway: How Do You Know If You Love Your Husband? by Jade Lee (Kathy Lyons)
*Giveaway Now Closed*
Everyone please welcome paranormal, historical and fantasy romance author, Jade Lee to Paperback Dolls! Jade released the first in her Wicked series , WICKED SURRENDER, last September with the second, WICKED SEDUCTION, coming out March 1st, but you have a chance to win a copy right here after her post!
So I was told write something about love and romance because, of course, February is the month of love. But how to say anything that hasn’t been said? Okay, here’s the deep dark discovery I just had this morning. And it really is a deep, dark secret because it’s not something I want to deal with. But writers write about their issues, so I’m writing about mine.
How do you know if you love your husband? My hubby and I have been together for over half our lives. We’ve raised two kids who are now in their twenties. He’s seen me through major depressions, publishing horror stories, and more than a few fits of the whiny pouts. (I am the QUEEN of the whiny pout, my kids being–in order–the Goddess of the Pout and the Revenge of the Whine). He’s been patient, supportive, and usually an all around good guy.
But do I LOVE him? Back when we met, we had this hot salsa kind of lust. Spicy, dangerous, never enough. Now it’s more like a low belly warmth. He’s my guy, and we’re good together. And when he does the dishes, well, then he’s hot enough to give a really big, wet kiss to. And when he does the taxes, he’s a veritable god, at least until the check is written and the paperwork is filed.
But do I LOVE him? That under the skin, core deep feeling of gushy warmth? Is it there? Certainly it has been. He’s got this deadpan delivery of witty come backs that always takes me by surprise and makes me laugh. And I always smile when he talks to my cat. In fact, he and the feline often have extensive conversations and I end up giggling in the other room when I hear it. And I gotta say, I love it when he goes all maintenance on my car. I don’t know what he does to the thing, but I’m sure it’s important.
But is that LOVE? Maybe…yes. I think so. Maybe it’s the new form of love for empty nesters. Maybe it’s the fact that I can’t imagine life without him. And the times we’ve been apart have been BORING. Last time he travelled, I started talking to myself out loud. Like a crazy person. It took me all of 36 hours before I started talking out loud to myself.
But is that LOVE???? You tell me. And one lucky commenter will win a copy of my latest Jade Lee book — WICKED SEDUCTION about a wicked pirate at last returning home to find everything and nothing at home has changed.
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Like Jade said, she’s givingaway a signed copy of WICKED SEDUCTION (out March 1st) to ONE lucky US commenter and all you have to do is answer her question!
A MAN INTENT ON JUSTICE…After seven years of battling for survival on a pirate ship, Kit Frazier returns to England to right a wrong and make peace with what he lost. But once in London, he finds himself unexpectedly at sea, caught in his swirling attraction to the beguiling and elusive Maddy.
A WOMAN DETERMINED TO BE FREE…
Maddy will do anything to escape the desperate circumstances of her life, and helping her cousin Rose catch the man of her dreams seems an easy enough task–until Maddy meets the handsome pirate captain Kit. The dashing rogue has only two purposes: to rescue the boy in his care and to seduce Maddy into his bed.
A LOVE WITHOUT END
With each heated encounter, Kit pulls Maddy off her stated course. But when treachery threatens them all, she will have to choose between a respectable future and wicked, wonderful seduction.
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Giveaway ends March 7th and the winner will be chosen by random.org on March 8th. We ask the winners to post a review of the novel someplace. Whether it is on their own blog, Amazon, GoodReads, LibraryThing or wherever, it doesn’t matter. Just help get the word out. Also, we will try to contact the winners, but we ask that you check back to see if you’ve won.
Jade Lee has broken new ground in multi-cultural romance. Her China-set historical romances are a first in genre history. Her six-book Tigress series stirred reader passions for foreign settings, and her fantasy romances continue to be ground-breaking. Where did she get such innovative ideas? From a mixed cultural heritage that brings unique vision to her fiction.
As the daughter of a Shanghai native and a staunch Indiana Hoosier, Jade Lee struggled to find her own identity somewhere between America and China. Her search has taken her throughout Asian and the United States. In the end, the answer was found not only at home, but in her own head. Her imagination allows her to explore China in her Tigress series, dragon power in her fantasy romance Dragonborn, and of course, the amazing power of love in all of them.
A USA Today bestseller, Jade “Lee has made her mark with sizzling romances whose unique settings, intriguing backdrops and exotic characters lure you into worlds where heaven is reached through the highest meeting of mind and body. It’s a world at once mysterious and erotic, secret and mind-expanding.” (Romantic Times BOOKreviews on Cornered Tigress)
Paperback Dolls said…
I think it is most definitely love… Not lust, but pure love:)
Thank you for the wonderful post!
February 17, 2011 7:28 AM
June M. said…
This is definately love. After this many years, to still want to be with the same person is LOVE. Congrats on such a long, happy marriage!
February 17, 2011 8:45 AM
Asylumgirl said…
This is something my husband and I go through. When you’re with someone for a long time, love changes, yet it’s still love. It would be nice if it could remain that burning love like when you first met, but like everything, love matures over time, and some would say that it’s even better.
Deidre
February 17, 2011 9:15 AM
Tore said…
I think it is definitely love to me. Especially when you can’t imagine life without him. Those words in itself show to me that it is love. Please enter me in contest.
February 17, 2011 9:30 AM
Mona said…
Hi Jade! *waving like crazy* Love your post. I’ll be seeing you again at RT. Can’t wait.
February 17, 2011 10:26 AM
ChrisS said…
Thank you for the great blog. I couldn’t help smiling when I was reading your story. The answer is Yes, I most definately think it’s Love. I think true Love is ever changing and growing. It’s found in the things as simple & valuable as a smile, a second glance, maintaining yoru car or him putting his dirty dishes in the sink… As relationships evolve.. so does love. For me it comes down to, not ever wanting to be without him and not wanting to change a thing <3 hmm...well if I could get him to put his dirty dishes in the sink....
February 17, 2011 10:58 AM
Danielle Gorman said...
Love the post. It is definitely love. I think love is always changing. For me love is being happy with the eachother. You get happy when you see them.
February 17, 2011 11:57 AM
debbie said...
I think that is the kind of love that comes from that many years of being together. Yes, it isn't all hot and bothered like when you are in your twenties, but it is better.
February 17, 2011 12:00 PM
jeanette8042 said…
I definitely think it’s love, especially when you start talking to yourself when he’s gone! It just shows how close a relationship you both have, and it’s hilarious that he has conversations with your cat!
lilazncutie1215[at]yahoo[dot]com
February 17, 2011 2:39 PM
Barbara E. said…
Yes, Jade, I think that’s love. Especially the “can’t imagine life without him” part. Being with someone for a long time should be comfortable and cozy, at least that’s how I feel.
Barbed1951 at aol.com
February 17, 2011 4:46 PM
KittNLuv said…
Hi Jade! Thanks again for visiting with us today! To me your completely in love! Congrats on being married so long!
February 17, 2011 9:07 PM
Day said…
Total love!!! Thank you so much for the post!
February 18, 2011 6:00 AM
Mariee said…
I think it’s love! And my hubby does the same thing with our cats LOL
marieimy (at) gmail (dot) com
February 18, 2011 2:52 PM
Robin K said…
Love is my children’s laughter :)
robin [at] intensewhisper [dot] com
February 18, 2011 4:20 PM
Di said…
Love is wanting the best for the other person.
sallans d at yahoo dot com
February 19, 2011 5:43 PM
Sheree said…
Love, the kind from being together for so long, is much better than lust!
ironss[at]gmail.com
February 20, 2011 8:18 PM
Meredith said…
That’s love…definitely. For me, love is my family. They’re all I need.
meredithfl at gmail dot com
February 21, 2011 7:35 PM
mbreakfield said…
Definitely seems like love to me.
marlenebreakfield(at)yahoo(dot)comd
February 22, 2011 2:04 PM
Amy said…
Love is when you care so much for the other person’s well-being that you just want to make them smile.
angeldream3[at]gmail[dot]com
February 24, 2011 9:11 PM
YWLiang said…
Yes, that is love! :) And this line proves it: Maybe it’s the fact that I can’t imagine life without him.
Your relationship with your husband is the same as mine with my husband. I can’t imagine life without him either and he always make me smile and laugh :)
Thanks for the giveaway! :)
Email: yiliang0124[at]hotmail.com
February 27, 2011 10:13 AM
YWLiang said…
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February 27, 2011 10:16 AM
YWLiang said…
+1 I listed the giveaway on my new blog (left hand side)
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February 27, 2011 10:20 AM
Aanchal @ Book Flame said…
yes it is 100%love!
thanks for the giveaway!
March 3, 2011 3:38 PM